Christian Dating Blog

I hear this question a lot, and it’s a fair question. I personally believe it’s okay for a Christian to use an online dating site. However, it depends on HOW and WHY you do it. For instance, if you’re desparate to be in a relationship and obsessed with it to the point of joining all the Christian dating sites, you’re in trouble. Or, if you’re a woman and aren’t careful then that’s a bad thing. On the other hand, if you are wise and patient in your use of these sites I believe it’s okay, but it’s not for everyone. If you would be embarrassed to tell someone you met your girlfriend or wife online, then you probably shouldn’t do it.

I love the fact that that you can get to know the other person(s) via email and the the phone before you ever meet. This have several advantages, including eliminating the ones with whom you’re not compatible without going on dates and really getting to know the ones with whom you are compatible before you meet them in person. The advantage of the latter is that you can really get to know the person without the distraction of all the stuff that comes along with being on a date. I believe this is the single greatest advantage of online dating for Christians.

According to the Christian Dating WatchDog, a number of “Christian” dating sites are owned by secular companies and are not Christian at all. In fact, some of these companies are into things that Christians do not, and should not, support. The most heinous example of this is BigChurch.com, which apparently is owned by the same company which operates several x-rated dating sites such as AdultFriendFinder.com and GayFriendfinder and several others. What really gets me riled up is that they make BigChurch.com appear as if it is run by sincere Christians, including a searchable Bible and commentary on the site. I wonder if they were laughing when someone came up with the idea of putting Genesis 24 on the homepage (“A man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.”).

I don’t hate these people, but I definitely hate what they are doing in two major ways. First, I hate that they are promoting illicit sexual relationships and extramarital affairs and, second, I hate that they are trying to pass BigChurch.com off as a Christian site.

“Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it. But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find it. Tree and Its Fruit. Watch out for false prophets. They come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ferocious wolves. By their fruit you will recognize them. Do people pick grapes from thornbushes, or figs from thistles?” (Matthew 7:13-16)